I'm currently working on a few completely separate ColdFusion 9 projects. Instead of managing Apache connectors and CF instances, I've chosen to do simple per-project deployments of ColdFusion 9 onto Tomcat.

Set up this way, ColdFusion starts in 4-5 seconds, and I can see my console right within Eclipse - really handy for logging while running Flex apps! It's not perfect: SES urls require an extra servlet filter, and stopping Tomcat sometimes takes a manual "Force Quit," but I'm really enjoying the setup. Anyhow, here's a video tutorial on how to build your own ColdFusion 9 + Tomcat environment in just a few minutes:

Creating a ColdFusion 9 + Tomcat + Eclipse development environment from Joe Rinehart on Vimeo.